September 23, 2009

Pleasurists #47

Posted in 1, sex, Sex Education, Sex Toys tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 11:20 pm by Femme Mystique

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Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #46? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #48? Submit it here before Sunday September 27th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

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September 14, 2009

Most Wanted Sex Toys: September Edition

Posted in 1 tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 9:11 am by Femme Mystique

Shunga Massage Candle

1.  Shunga Massage Candle by Shunga Erotic Art – This candle is made out of soy wax and essential oils that melts into a silky massage oil and comes in delicious flavors like exotic fruits, vanilla, lavender, and rose.

Lovemoiselle Aveline

2. Aveline Ceramic Dildo by Lovemoiselle – This is truly a work of art.  Made out of beautiful white glazed ceramic with a G-spotting curve, what’s not to love?

Mia Vibrator LELO

3.  Mia Vibrator by LELO – What’s more geek-chic than a vibrator that plugs into your USB port to charge?  Nothing?  I thought not.

September 12, 2009

Sex Toy Review: Petite Couture Silhouette by California Exotics

Posted in 1, sex, Sex Education, Sex Toys tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 5:08 pm by Femme Mystique

Petite Couture Silhouette Vibrator California Exotics

The Good: This toy is made out of a wonderfully squishy silicone that is super hygienic.  The vibrator is powerful, yet very quiet, and has multiple speeds and functions.  The design is slightly curved to hit the G-spot.  Great for travel.

The Bad: The different functions are nothing new or noteworthy.  They are the traditional pulsating and rollercoaster-type functions.

The Verdict: I would have never guessed this was a California Exotics product.  Made from premium materials and packaged very simply, Cal Exotics has really taken their products to the next level with the Couture and Petite Couture lines.  I gave the Silhouette four stars.

You can read my full review here.

*Don’t forget to use the code 6t2 at checkout for 15% off!

September 11, 2009

Trim Your Bush, Dammit!

Posted in 1, Gender Politics, sex tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 5:47 pm by Femme Mystique

OK, I’m sure by now you’ve seen this commercial. Last night while watching Project Runway (hey, don’t judge), I saw it no less than three times. I can just imagine someone coming into the weekly board meeting saying, “Hey, I have an idea, let’s take the oldest and most overused metaphor for women’s pubic hair and use it to promote our product”.

Now, I’ll admit, I’m a shaver. I don’t like hair on myself, but that’s a matter of personal preference. I DON’T want to be marketed to in such a way that implies that if I did have pubic hair that it would need to be manicured like shrubbery. I don’t need a special fancy schmancy razor to cut my pubic hair into hearts and flowers and fairy princess crowns, thank you!

I don’t get why they didn’t go with the simple approach of saying, “hey, we have a bikini razor so that if you do choose to shave, you can use something that might give you less irritation,” instead of pissing a bunch of us off.

Thanks, Schick, for reducing our bodies to landscaping projects.

July 27, 2009

Sex Toy Review: Elements Omega by Tantus

Posted in 1, sex, Sex Toys tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 2:17 am by Femme Mystique

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How to use it:
Elements Omega is a diminutive strap-on compatible dildo from Tantus.  Though the base allows it to be used in a harness, I would not recommend it for this purpose.  My partner found the end to be too pointy when used in a situation where there is less control, such as in a harness.  It is great for use manually, with or without the vibrating component.  Alternately, I enjoyed this dildo in the internal holder of the harness we own, the Pleasure Principle Deluxe.  There it can provide internal vibrations for the harness wearer without the pain that could be caused by vigorous thrusting.  This dildo is also safe for anal use, though I did not test it this way.

Construction:
The Elements Omega is made out of 100% silicone.  The silicone has some give, and it is softer than many Tantus products.  It is not, however, as soft as Fun Factory silicone, for example.  It is 4-1/2″ of insertable length and 1″ in diameter, which some may find to be too small.  I generally prefer toys of about 1-1/4″ in diameter, but found this to be very pleasing.  The wavy texture and slight curve make this toy feel somewhat fuller than many 1″ toys.  This toy also has a hole in the back for an included bullet vibrator.  The vibrations can be felt pretty well throughout the toy, tending to concentrate in the base where the bullet is located.

Care instructions:
Only water-based lubricants should be used with this toy.  Cleaning can be done using with a 10% bleach solution, toy cleaner, mild soap and warm water, by boiling, or in the dishwasher (top shelf, no detergent).

Packaging:
Comes in Tantus’s typical clear plastic box with a clear tray inside that holds the dildo and bullet.  I appreciate Tantus’s simple, tasteful packaging.

The verdict:
This is a really great, simple toy that can be appreciated by both beginners and advanced users.  I wish that it was more effective in a harness, but I can overlook it on account of the fact that it is otherwise a very versatile product.  Four out of five stars to Tantus for this great toy.

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July 21, 2009

Dildos: An Imitation of the Male Penis?

Posted in 1, Gender Politics, Queer Politics, sex, Sex Education tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 12:02 am by Femme Mystique

As a mostly woman-identified queer person, I have at several points battled internally with the idea of using dildos for partner sex.  Identifying as a lesbian places one in a very unique place with regards to heterosexism.

Upon coming out, early lesbian friends of mine shunned the dildo as a representation of the male penis.  “If I wanted a penis, I could have the real thing,” they chided.  Upon further analysis, however, I found this to be a very androcentric and problematic statement.

Havelock Ellis, a nineteenth century sexologist, originated the idea that lesbian sex, especially with the use of sex toys, was an imitation of heterosexual, penis-in-vagina sex.  This androcentric analysis places an extraordinarily higher value on the penis versus the vagina, with emphasis on imitation rather than pleasure.

Without  a doubt women can experience sexual pleasure from sex without the involvement of a penis.  I propose then that dildos are not by default phallic representations, nor in contrast are they necessarily yonic.  They are, in their purest form, merely instruments of pleasure.

I’ve never seriously wanted to be a man.  Sure, I think it might be fun to try.  Sure, I sometimes wish I could gain the privileges that come along with being born into a male body.  But overall I am content with the biological sex into which I have been born and the gender which I choose to present.  I don’t think that my use of sex toys threatens either of these things in any way.

June 5, 2009

Shaming of the STI

Posted in 1, sex, Sex Education tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 3:52 pm by Femme Mystique

Recently I conducted a poll about sexual attitudes within the confines of a sex-positive community I participate in.  The question I posed was this:

Would you have sex with a new partner that confided in you they had an STI (other than HIV)?

I must admit, I was a little surprised and disappointed by the results of the poll.  Of the 42 respondents, an overwhelming 36% percent answered simply that no, if they found out a partner had an STI, they would not have sex with them, protected or otherwise.  Another 55% said that it would depend on which STI their partner had.  With the exclusion of the most harmful STI, HIV, I was unsure which STI’s people were most worried about.

There was some nervousness about cancer causing strains of HPV, but even more so there was quite a bit of worry about herpes.  The herpes virus carries a very low level risk of complications except for genital sores, which are a nuisance but seem to cause many more emotional issues that physical.

The emotional issues can be traced back to the perceived social and moral implications of herpes.  Culturally we are raised to value purity and virginity, so we often see STI’s as a sign of promiscuity and carelessness.  The herpes virus is the same virus that causes cold sores, yet confessing a cold sore often doesn’t cause potential partners to even bat an eye.  I believe that the key here is in the word “genital”, in genital herpes and is the synechologically the same reason for using words like “slut” and “whore” to insult.

Interestingly, the word “pudenda” (you thought it was just a slang term, didn’t you?), which is a somewhat antiquated word referring to a woman’s genitals and presently is the clinical name for a nerve running to the clitoris, derives from a Latin word meaning “to be ashamed” (Source).  It is not hard to see then how our negative attitudes about sex, genitals, and consequently STI’s have persisted.

Unfortunately it seems like healthier attitudes about STI’s are still pretty far off, but I have some hope that things will get better.